There is no turning back!

I wrote my letter today (I needed a few days to think about everything) ūüôā I hand wrote both their letters and they both got the¬†same letter.

Image¬†Then Emma and I hopped in the truck and went to Georgia Market and Mailed them!¬†Image¬†Can’t turn back now!

Now I wait again!

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This entry was posted on July 31, 2013. 1 Comment

6 Months Later I have Names and Addresses!

Today I opened the mailbox and I pull out a letter from the¬†state of Vermont…. I knew what it was the minute I¬†saw it!

I pretty much ran from the mailbox inside and opened it…. and this is what I read:

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  • My mom is Leanna and Dad is Jeff!
  • I have done a ton of research today
  • They DO NOT have facebook
  • Josh found both of their numbers
  • My mom’s dad passed away June 11, 2012

David A. Griswold, Sr. 
(January 20, 1927 РJune 11, 2012) 

David A. Griswold, Sr.

U.S. Veteran

WINDSOR, VT David A. Griswold, Sr., 85, a longtime resident of Windsor passed away peacefully Monday morning, June 11 at the Mt. Ascutney Hospital and Health Center following a short illness. He was born January 20, 1927 in Norwich, VT a son of Clifford A. and Beatrice (Tobin) Griswold. He has resided in Windsor his entire adult life. He received his schooling through the Hanover school system. He was a veteran of World War II serving with the US Army Ski Patrol. Following his honorable discharge, he returned to Windsor. He married Maxine Durphey in Claremont, NH on July 6, 1954. He worked as aFord mechanic¬†at the Ford Garage in Claremont, NH for fifteen years. He was later employed as a mechanic at the former Goodyear Tire and Rubber Company in Windsor for twenty three years. Upon the closing of the Goodyear Plant, David became the property manager for seven years, working for the Connecticut River Development Corporation. He also drove school bus for the Windsor School District. One of his greatest passions was working on racecars. He was Donnie Miller‚Äôs mechanic for several years at the Claremont Speedway. He was also the proud sponsor of Pop G Motorsports. David loved NASCAR, gardening, cooking, his dog Daizie and most of all dancing with his wife, especially the polka. He loved taking family¬†vacations to¬†Newfound Lake, the coast of Maine and Florida. He was known by many things during his life; husband, father, grandfather, brother, uncle, neighbor, friend and ‚ÄúBoss‚ÄĚ by his children. Mr. Griswold‚Äôs loyalty was unbreakable and his integrity unshakeable. He had the voice of thunder, the grip of a bear and the heart of an angel. He was everybody‚Äôs Grandpa. Survivors include his loving wife of fifty eight years, Maxine Griswold of Windsor, and his children, Linda Richardson of Windsor, David Griswold of Hartland, Donald Griswold of Hartland, Denis Griswold of Peabody, MA, Lisa Griswold of Norwich, Lori Parent of Brownsville and Leanna of Bradford, VT, eleven grandchildren, Marcy, Keith, Lindsey, Garrett, Arianna, Olivia, Zoe, Elissa, Kathleen, Andrew and Hayden, two great grandchildren, Taylor and Hallie, three sisters, Betty Abbot, Ellen Paterson, Anna Daniels, three brothers, Clifford ‚ÄúMickey‚ÄĚ, James and Daniel, several nieces and nephews. He was predeceased by one brother, Donald. His family wishes to thank the neuroscience unit at¬†Dartmouth Hitchcock Medical Center¬†in Lebanon, NH and the staff at Mt. Ascutney Hospital and Health Center for their care, understanding and professionalism in making the difficult moments endurable and giving David dignity in his final days. Friends may call at the Knight Funeral Home in Windsor on Thursday evening, June 14 from 6:00 to 8:00 PM. The funeral service will be held Friday, June 15 at 11:00 AM at the Rachel S. Harlow United Methodist Church in Windsor with the Rev. Ken White, Pastor, officiating. A reception for family and friends will follow at the Windsor Elks Lodge. Committal services will be held at the convenience of his family at a later date in the Hilltop Cemetery in Quechee. Memorial contributions may be made to the Dartmouth Hitchcock Medical Center Neuroscience Unit, at 1 Medical Center Drive, Lebanon, NH 03766 or to the Mt. Ascutney Hospital and Health Center at 289 County Road, Windsor, VT 05089.

 

Im planning on writing them letter and I have already printed out pictures to send them! 

Day 5 Of The Search 02/02/13-Paper Work

Went to Shearer today and had Teresa watch me sign my paper and she put her stamp on it and it was put in the mail at the post office at 1:30pm! Ekkkkkkkkkk! Now it’s really starting to feel real now I have to wait! Of course I will update as soon as I hear anything! *Fingers Crossed*

This entry was posted on February 3, 2013. 1 Comment

Day 4 Of The Search 02/01/13-Paper Work

I got my paper that I need to sign in the mail! I had to fill out, just my name, my parents names, the town I lived in when i was adopted, current address, birth date and social! I must sign this paper in front of a Notary Public. Luckily Josh works with a women who is one! (YAY) So I get to go to Shearer tomorrow to sign it and then sending it back to WATERBURY!

Info on the hand out sent with my paperwork:

FOR ADOPTIONS FINALIZED ON OR AFTER JULY 1, 1986: Identifying information about a birthparent will be released to a adoptee upon request, unless the birthparent has requested nondisclosure. Identifying information about a adoptee or birth sibling can only be released with his/her consent.

Day 1 Of The Search 1/29/13

Day 1 of searching:

I can’t thank my mom enough for helping me with all this!

So called VCAS-Vermont Children’s Aid Society (Where I was adopted though)

They no longer¬†exist! Bummer! So ended up getting a women’s name down in Waterbury.

Called down there to the Adoption Registry! Good news!

She is sending me a packet in the mail with all the information and a form that I have to sign.

This form will give her consent to put my name on their website. Also once the form is signed she can go into MY file to see what was said and see if my birth parents signed a form to be found! So that’s all I have for now! Even though it’s just the start very exciting and of course I will keep you all updated!

Thanks For Reading!

ABOUT MY BIRTH MOTHER AND FATHER

This is from 1987….

 

BIRTH MOTHER: 

THE BIRTH MOTHER WAS SEVENTEEN YEARS OF AGE AT THE TIME OF THE ADOPTION PLACEMENT. SHE IS OF IRISH AND AMERICAN INDIAN DESCENT. SHE WAS RAISED IN THE CATHOLIC RELIGION.

THE BIRTH MOTHER WAS IN THE ELEVENTH GRADE IN HIGH SCHOOL AND PLANNED TO COMPLETE HER SCHOOL EDUCATION. SHE WAS CONSIDERING THE POSSIBILITY OF CONTINUING HER EDUCATION IN COLLEGE. SHE CURRENTLY PARTICIPATES IN THE CULINARY ARTS PROGRAM AND SPEAKS OD THIS ENTHUSIASTICALLY. SHE MAY PURSUE TRAINING AS A PASTRY CHEF. SHE REPORTS NO SPECIFIC LEARNING PROBLEMS. SHE IS A GOOD STUDENT WHO WAS INVOLVED IN NUMEROUS SCHOOL ACTIVITIES.

THE BIRTH MOTHER IS IN EXCELLENT GENERAL HEALTH AND HAS NO REMARKABLE ILLNESS OR SURGERY. SHE WAS PRESCRIBED GLASSES IN SEVENTH GRADE. SHE IS RIGHT HANDED AND HAS TYPE O- BLOOD. SHE DOES NOT SMOKE, DRINK OR DO DRUGS. SHE IS GENERALLY VERY ACTIVE AND PHYSICALLY FIT.

THE BIRTH MOTHER HAS BEEN VERY ACTIVE IN HIGH SCHOOL, PARTICIPATING IN CHEERLEADING, SOFT BALL, AND WAS THE DRUM MAJOR IN AN AWARD-WINNING BAND.

SHE IS QUITE ATHLETIC AND ENJOYS BIKING AND SWIMMING. SHE ALSO COOKS QUITE WELL.

THE BIRTH MOTHER IS A PRETTY GIRL WITH DARK BROWN HAIR, BLUE EYES AND A TAN COMPLEXION. SHE IS 5’7″ TALL, GENERALLY WEIGHS 120 POUNDS, AND HAS A SLENDER , STRONG BUILD. SHE HAS ALWAYS BEEN WELL GROOMED AND CASUAL, RELAXED MANNER. SHE APPEARS TO BE VERY EASY GOING, SENSIBLE AND¬†COMMUNICATIVE¬† SENSE OF HUMOR IS A STRONG CHARACTERISTIC IN HER FAMILY, AND SHE TOO, HAS A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR. SHE ALSO PRESENTED HERSELF AS VERY¬†SENSITIVE¬† EXPRESSIVE AND OUTGOING. HER INSIGHT AND SELF-KNOWLEDGE¬†ARE IMPRESSIVE FOR A GIRL OF HER AGE. SHE IS BRIGHT, VERY¬†LIKABLE¬† AND HAS A WARM, ENGAGING SMILE.

BIRTH FATHER:

THE BIRTH FATHER WAS 21 YEARS OF AGE AT THE TIME OF PLACEMENT. HE IS OF FRENCH DESCENT.

THE BIRTH FATHER GRADUATED FROM HIGH SCHOOL, RECEIVING ABOVE AVERAGE GRADES, AND HE DESCRIBES SCHOOL AS EASY. HE RECEIVED TRAINING IN THE VOCATIONAL PROGRAM’S WELDING COURSE.

BIRTH FATHER IS CURRENTLY EMPLOYED BUILDING LOG CABINS. HE STARTED THE JOB IN THE SPRING AND SEEMS TO FEEL POSITIVELY ABOUT THE WORK.

THE BIRTH FATHER IS VERY ATHLETIC, ENJOYING AND EXCELLING IN SEVERAL SPORTS. BASKETBALL IS HIS FAVORITE, WHILE HE ALSO PLAYS SOFTBALL. BIKING AND JOGS.

THE BIRTH FATHER IN 5’6-1/2″ TALL, WEIGHS 150 POUNDS AND IS EXCEPTIONALLY¬†ATHLETIC¬†AND PHYSICALLY FIT. HE IS A GOOD LOOKING YOUNG MAN WITH BROWN HAIR, HAZEL EYES AND FAIR COLORING. THOUGH RATHER QUIET AND¬†APPARENTLY¬†SHY, HE IS VERY¬†LIKABLE¬†AND¬†ENGAGING PERSON. HE HAS A MISCHIEVOUS TWINKLE IN HIS EYES AND A CLEVER SENSE OF HUMOR. HE DOES SEEM TO UNDERSTAND THE SERIOUSNESS OF THE SITUATION AND HAS BEEN RESPONSIBLE IN KEEPING APPOINTMENTS AND EVALUATING PLANNING FOR THE BABY. HE HAS BEEN CANDID AND INSIGHTFUL IN HIS ASSESSMENT OF HIS ABILITY INSIDE, NOT TALKING MUCH ABOUT DIFFICULTIES, SO THIS HAS MOST LIKELY BEEN A CHALLENGING PROCESS FOR HIM.

REASON FOR RELINQUISHMENT:

THE BIRTH FATHER AND MOTHER HAD AN ON-GOING STEADY RELATIONSHIP. THE BIRTH MOTHER JUST BEGAN MENSTRUATION AND BECAME PREGNANT AFTER ONLY HER SECOND PERIOD. SHE ENGAGED IN A FAIR BIT OF DENIAL, CONCEALING HER PREGNANCY UNTIL HER 7 MONTH. WHILE TRYING ON BRIDESMAID DRESSES FOR A WEDDING, SHE WAS CONFRONTED WITH THE SITUATION BY A FRIEND. THE FRIEND TOOK HER IN FOR A PREGNANCY TEST AND ULTRASOUND. SHORTLY THEREAFTER¬†VCAS¬†WAS CONTACTED TO PROVIDE COUNSELING FOR THE BIRTH MOTHER REGARDING HER UNPLANNED PREGNANCY. OPTIONS OF¬†PARENTING, IN-FAMILY ADOPTION, AND AGENCY ADOPTION WERE DISCUSSED AND EVALUATED. THE BIRTH FATHER AND MOTHER’S PARENTS HAVE PARTICIPATED IN SOME COUNSELING SESSIONS. THOUGH A VERY DIFFICULT DECISION, ALL HAVE AGREES ON MAKING AND ¬†AGENCY ADOPTION PLAN. THE BIRTH MOTHER FEELS THAT SHE IS TOO YOUN AND¬†UNPREPARED, BOTH EMOTIONALLY AND IN TERMS OF RESOURCES, TO MEET THE BABY’S NEEDS. SHE POINTED OUT THE EXPERIENCE OF SEEING THE MANY YOUNG SINGLE MOTHER’S IN THE AREA OFTEN NEGLECTING THEIR BABY’S NEEDS AND THAT SHE WOULD NOT WANT THAT FOR HER CHILD. SHE STATED THAT SHE WOULD RATHER PLACE THE BABY WITH A STABLE, TWO PARENT FAMILY, WITH SOMEONE WHO COULDN’T HAVE¬†CHILDREN¬†AND¬†REALLY WANTED THEM. THE BIRHT FATHER AGREED, STATING THAT HE ALSO FELT TOO YOUNG AND UNABLE TO WITH THE EVERY DAY NEEDS OF A CHILD. HE FEELS THAT HE IS TOO ACTIVE AND NOT READY TO SETTLE DOWN AND PROVIDE ADEQUATE PARENTING. IT WAS FELT THAT IN-FAMILY ADOPTION WOULD CONTRIBUTE TO ROLE CONFUSION. SINCE THE BIRTH MOTHERS FAMILY ARE A CLOSE FAMILY, ON-GOING CONTACT WOULD BE INEVITABLE, AND IT WAS FELT THAT IT WOULD BE DIFFICULT NOT TO INTERFERE WITH THE CHILD’S PARENTING. THE BIRTH FATHER AND MOTHER HAVE CONTINUED THEIR RELATIONSHIP THROUGHOUT THE PREGNANCY AND SEEMED TO AGREE FULLY ON THEIR PLAN FOR ADOPTION, THOUGH IS WAS A DIFFICULT DECISION TO MAKE. THIS PLAN IS SUPPORTED BY THE BIRTH MOTHER AND BIRTH FATHERS PARENTS.


ADDITIONAL PLANNING:

AFTER MUCH CONSIDERATION, THE BIRTH FATHER AND BIRTH MOTHER BOTH AGREED TO BE AVAILABLE FOR A REUNION.

Just some information about me being adopted!

I know most of you know I was adopted for those of you who did not I was adopted when I was 2-weeks old.

I spend two weeks with my foster parent and then my Mom and Dad adopted me: Mardi & George Trendle!

I have ALWAYS know I was adopted. As long as I can remember! Which I’m thankful for! I always thought it was pretty cool! (I have heard of other peoples parents not telling them, or ¬†waiting in till they were older)

 

My Main fear with finding my Birth parents:

  • I have this fear that what if one or both have passed away? So here’s the thing if they passed away before I was 18 years old then it is what it is…but if one or both have passed after I turned 18 years old, I would feel¬†terrible and sad.